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What if we’ve lost faith in friendship? #9
By Phil Ossefie TLDR: Let’s try finding fresh eyes. How we view friendship Like many things, our beliefs about what a friend should be and what friendship can completely determine how we feel about our own situation. Disproving that we’re being a “simp” doesn’t matter if we still feel terrible that our friend never reaches…
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How do we avoid being doormats? #8
By Todd Ler (with contributions from Phil Ossefie and Pierce Ng) TLDR: by thoughtfully reassessing their level of investment. Friendship Simp So much arguing to save one-sided friendships can seem like we support simping for our lousy friends: On the surface, it looks like there’s a distinct lack of self-respect, which was one of the…
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Should we save one-sided friendships? #7
By Todd Ler (with contributions from Phil Ossefie and Pierce Ng) TLDR: Yes because we have nothing to lose, unless we’re busy, then maybe later. Our main concern After we’ve ascertained that we’re indeed not the problem here because we’re trying, it’s going to be very tempting to conclude that they’re to blame. The next…
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Are we really friends? #6
By Pierce Ng (with contributions from Phil Ossefie and Todd Ler) TLDR: to see and understand us (enough) for what we are, again and again. Despite knowing how friendship works, we could still lack experience of real world variables that gives us better judgment of character and so on. Here, we can further work to…
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What are friends for? #5
By Pierce Ng (with contributions from Phil Ossefie and Todd Ler) TLDR: to see and understand us (enough) for what we are, again and again. Intro For normal people, this is a platitude, not a question. However, this is for everyone who doesn’t feel normal, “Really, what are friends for?” “What’s the point of having…
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Could we be determining value more accurately? #4
by Phil Ossefie (with contributions from Pierce Ng and Todd Ler) TLDR: Yes, starting with considering other people’s struggles more. Price is what you pay, value is what you get We can’t talk about value without talking about Money because it’s the most popular way we determine the worth of as many things as possible.…
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What’s the point of being alive? #3
by Phil Ossefie (with contributions from Pierce Ng and Todd Ler) TLDR: to add value. What’s value? A) Odds of survival – the probability of us staying alive. AND/OR B) Motivation to live – different from motivation to not die or survival instinct. Whether it’s more for ourselves or others, ideally no one should have…
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So how should we be living? #2
by Phil Ossefie (with contributions from Pierce Ng and Todd Ler) TLDR: Choosing to not hurt anyone is a good start. Priorities We’re suggesting approaches to living, not telling anyone how to live. How could we? We’re not even sure how to live ourselves. We all have different priorities, The 10 functions as a quick…
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Is there more to life than this? #1
by Phil Ossefie (with contributions from Pierce Ng and Todd Ler) TLDR: Not really, it’s just 10 things. Intro No one asks this question when life is good or busy. It’s specially reserved for when we’re spiraling, usually a midlife crisis, existential crisis, or some level of depression, basically whenever it feels like something important…
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Hello world!
Out of the night that covers me, black as the pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be for my unconquerable soul. In the fell clutch of circumstance, I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance, my head is bloody, but unbowed. Beyond this place of wrath and…
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